Sex Therapy - what to expect

What can I expect at my session?

Everyone keeps their clothes on. There is no touching or showing how to have sex.

Sex therapy with Jane is ‘talk therapy’, helping individuals or couples talk about sex and intimacy. As a sex and relationship therapist, Jane is comfortable talking about sex. People are often anxious or inhibited when it comes to this kind of intimate conversation and Jane will create a safe and confidential environment, guiding you into a conversation to identify problems and issues and find a way forward.

At your first session, Jane will encourage you to talk about the issues you’re experiencing and why you have come to see her. This information will help her determine where she will enter into the specific challenges and difficulties you, or you and your partner/s, are having. She will identify the dynamics that are getting in the way of the kind of relationship, or way of relating, that you want.

How can Jane help me?

Gaining sexual confidence can be difficult, made more so by a reluctance to discuss sexual problems because of traumatic experiences, upbringing, and feelings of shame and guilt. Even knowing what satisfying sexual behavior might be can prove elusive.

In your sessions, Jane can help you identify your concerns, express them, understand your sexual needs and those of your partner, and provide you with ways to improve and enhance your sexuality and overall wellbeing.

You will develop an appreciation for your emotional world and how challenges from your partner and the day to day pressures of life can impact emotional wellbeing. Jane will provide you with tools to understand and manage the dynamics that arise.

Emotions and intuition give us an ‘inner knowing’. Learning to trust yourself and your heart can be challenging and Jane will help you acquire the tools and skills you need to make changes and have the relationship you desire.

How many times will I need to see Jane?

This depends on the nature of your difficulties. Six sessions are about average but one or two is not unusual. Sessions may be more frequent during the first two or three weeks, and become less frequent afterwards due to the homework and practice that Jane will recommend for you.

Jane is a strong proponent of the the Maori holistic model of health, te whare tapa wha, and incorporates this all-encompassing model of wellbeing in her practice.

Te whare tapa wha is a model of the four dimensions of wellbeing developed by Sir Mason Durie in 1984 to provide a Maori perspective on health. The four dimensions are: taha tinana (physical wellbeing), taha hinengaro (mental wellbeing), taha wairua (spiritual wellbeing) and taha whanau (family wellbeing).